“But what is a coping strategy when you are frustrated and don’t know how to cope because you can’t even articulate what the problem is? You try to make the other person feel guilty,” says Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project.
Hickey recently addressed the tendency to throw the blame of all “women’s issues” upon men’s shoulders.
She asks herself if there’s ever been a time in her life when she found herself feeling guilty for no other reason than for being a woman. She answers “no.” Most men tend to feel differently…
And so, you have male guilt.
The by-product of our good-intentioned fight for recognition, respect, and equality that, at times, has turned into “how can we make them feel ashamed for how WE feel?”
Misandry, the hatred or dislike of men or boys, is said to be the outcome of all sorts of things. Some say it’s because we envy men. Or because we’ve been oppressed.
While men have certainly done us wrong in the past, the present, and will inevitably continue to do so in the future, it’s simply unfair to categorize this entire sex as being the enemy. Some men are ignorant. But then you’ve got gentlemen like those behind the Good Men Project. It’s important to recognize this and not be ignorant ourselves.
Because women will continue to do other women wrong, as well. Guys aren’t fair game.