Akron, Ohio: Walk a Mile in Her Shoes

I’m not sure that there’s ever been a time in my life where I’ve missed living in Ohio more than this. Because on Friday April 26th, you guys have the opportunity to hang out and walk for an excellent cause with cool people like this:

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The 8th annual Walk a Mile in Her Shoes is for everybody- men, women, teenagers and children from Summit County and the surrounding communities (MEDINA! Represent). Walk through downtown Akron to protest rape, sexual assault and gender violence- causes that can never have even light shed on them.

My favorite part?

Men are encouraged (but not required) to walk in women’s shoes.

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Proceeds from this event will benefit the Rape Crisis Center of Medina and Summit Counties. The walk is scheduled to begin at 6 PM with registration starting at 5 PM in Downtown Akron (Lock 3).

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“Walk a Mile in Her Shoes provides an opportunity for the community to stand together against sexual assault and to raise awareness about this violent crime. Even though the original idea emphasizes men’s involvement, their partners, sisters, mothers and friends often join in too” said Dave Rich, WAMIHS planning committee member. Started in 2001 by Frank Baird Walk a Mile in Her Shoes has grown to become an internationally recognized event. Dave states that “men wobbling in heels or fuzzy pink slippers on downtown Akron sidewalks can be pretty amusing but the cause they are marching for is quite serious. While sexual assault has traditionally been viewed as a women’s issue the reality is that sexually violent crimes have no boundaries and affect us all. Statistics show us that approximately 1 in 3 females and 1 in 6 males will be affected by sexual violence in their lifetime.” Akron’s Walk a Mile in Her Shoes is in its 8th year and is quickly becoming a unique tradition in the Akron community.

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Start a fundraising team today and help to fight gender violence one step at a time!

Help the Rape Crisis Center raise money by donating here.

To start your own team, click here.

Contact Dana Zedak at 330-777-4723 or DanaZ@scmcbws.org with any questions if you prefer not to register online. 


Hey Boy,

I used to think you were the cute one.

I know I shouldn’t have high expectations for you to be a gentleman. And I know you’ve already been called out by, oh, everyone. But I’m just curious as to what the thought process was behind throwing down “actin’ like I’m raping it” in your awful new single? Super curious.

I’m glad that you changed your reaction to our disapproval from accusing everyone to overreacting to what appears to be a sincere apology. Maybe take a portion of the millions you’ve somehow managed to acquire and educate yourself. Just a thought.

Sexual Assault at Cleveland’s Occupy Protest

Public Square in Cleveland, OH. Via CleveScene.com

I recently read an article that I personally found to be hilariously genius on Cracked.com discussing the possibility of using the Occupy Wall Street movement as a way to pick up ladies.

Super funny.

Then, I went and read an article that reported the alleged sexual assault of a protester at Occupy Cleveland.

Super f**ked up.

Due to a “tent shortage,” the 19-year-old was offered to share a space with the suspect. She went on to tell a teacher of the incident the following Monday, who informed authorities.

This is the sort of thing that leaves me completely confused. I mean, what can we really say about this? I think it’s awesome that our generation seems to be actually speaking their minds and fighting for things they believe in. It’s awesome to feel included in a time when change is being asked for and people are doing things to make it come about.

Maybe I’m naive, but I’ve always seemed to feel that protests and peacefulness should coincide with one another. Be loud and yell and write signs with vulgarity all you please, but don’t be violent.

So, why why why why why why why is this happening now?

I haven’t got any answers for you.

Comparing #Occupy WallStreet to the SlutWalk Wave

If you’re on Twitter, you’ve most likely been seeing a lot of #occupywallstreet in your feed. Maybe what you haven’t seen a lot of coverage on is the new wave of protesting, fondly referred to as the SlutWalk.

So, what the f*** is a SlutWalk?

One generation, two very different causes. Via The Good Men Project.

A march in opposition of the belief that sexual assault is somehow the vitcim’s fault due to the nature of their dress. Chicago had a SlutWalk of its own on June 1st. I had planned on attending, but very regretfully backed out.

Rachel Rabbit White’s piece “A Day of #Occupy WallStreet and SlutWalk,” describes similarities between the two protests.

“Both protests are fighting a similar evil; of the same generation. A generation who wants better. And who are doing something to get it,” White says.

I highly recommend checking out White’s story in order to fully grasp what exactly is going on here.

Rape Jokes and Facebook

Slate’s the XX Factor recently published an article asking if Facebook Should Ban Rape Jokes.

Maybe we could use one of these. Via Fivver.com

British women’s rights groups have been teaming up to get groups who post inappropriate jokes on their walls removed from the website.

“This is hate speech…I find it very disturbing that Facebook don’t appear to see the connection between pages such as this and the prevailing rape culture we have in our society,” says Jane Osmond, a UK organizer.

Slate doesn’t think the jokes that caused such outrage among the petitioners were all that bad. In fact, the writer referred to them as “mundane.” And it’s true. I did a bit of my own research and while yes, the commenters were inappropriate, a lot of it just seemed quite childish.

Facebook doesn’t want to give into censorship, but the ladies DO have a point. However, they have complete control over what stays on their pages. We’re all pretty aware of the fact that we have the option to delete whatever we want from our walls or the walls of groups we’ve created.

The only conclusion I can come to is that maybe it’s time these boys grow up.

Rape and the “Pedestal Complex”

Rape- it’s an unfortunate tie between many women in the feminist subculture. But this does not include all of us.

Yes, I am personally a victim of sexual assault, “attempted rape,” sexual violence- whatever you want to call it. But no, the man who attacked me did not actually rape me.

So, should this make me feel any less significant a case?

The answer is no. But what’s messed up is that it does. Women like me do feel less significant. And it’s bullshit.

Check out http://www.facebook.com/deararthur. Photo by Bethany Richard.

Rape Culture and Other Feminist Myths” was recently written by a feminist blogger known as “Quiet Riot Girl.” She discusses Rape Culture and the strange idea that it is seen as “better” than the other violent crimes committed against women, giving it a sort of “pedestal complex.”

Melissa McEwan defines this as “myriad ways in which rape is tacitly and overtly abetted and encouraged having saturated every corner of our culture so thoroughly that people can’t easily wrap their heads around what the rape culture actually is.”

The book, Transforming a Rape Culture, defines it as this:

“Complex of beliefs that encourages male sexual aggression and supports violence against women. It is a society where violence is seen as sexy and sexuality as violent.

Quiet Riot Girl addresses other serious issues in our society in this article, such as domestic violence and homophobia. She also asks the question “have you ever heard a feminist say ‘we live in the murder of young black men culture?'”

Most likely you haven’t.

It’s a strange thing to think about. So many horrific crimes are committed every single day, and yet we’ve chosen to feel as if being a victim of one particular crime makes someone more special than the rest.

Why should certain feminists feel this lack of recognition for maybe actually being a bit more fortunate than some of her peers? Why is it that, if we’ve all experienced something, we feel the need to exclude individuals who have also been hurt?

Because they weren’t hurt as badly?